Acceptable Level of Fat

My fitness guru is kind of an ass. But, he’s family and deep down, like WAY deep down, he is a nice person.  So, I’m used to him and his outrageous judgment and critiques of complete strangers.  He is never rude to a person’s face, he barely even speaks to people aloud he is so socially awkward. We ended up talking about what we always talk about, fat people. I was arguing with him because he said people LET themselves get fat. I told him to shut up, you don’t know what’s going on in someone’s life.  Plus, we were at the track and if a person made the effort to go to a public park and just MOVE ( I don’t care if you’re walking, jogging, running or hell even crawling your still out MOVING and trying)then obviously they are trying to do something about their health.

I didn’t know I got fat.  I mean I knew I was big. But, I didn’t know I was that size I was. And in an odd way, I always thought I was big. Even when I was thin.

I know , I know.  Not making a lot of sense here. But, that’s the point. In high school I was pretty thin. I believe I was down to a size 7. But I look at those clothes now (I still have them) and they look like shirts my niece would wear they are so tiny.

The main reason I didn’t know I was fat? I have a hubby. He doesn’t see me in terms of my weight. He doesn’t care.  We aren’t judgmental to each other.

But society is pretty damn judgmental. Society is even harder on fat people especially if you’re not in the acceptable level of fat. You know what I’m talking about. The right amount of boob to stomach proportion . The boobs have to be bigger! The right ratio of double chin to double neck. You still have distinction! If you can still take a meticulous poised picture at just the right angle. That’s society’s acceptance  level for fat people.

I never did, and still don’t hold myself to society’s standards of beauty.  I’m sure I’m judged by the way I look by…everyone in society. But, like I said… I have a hubby. I walk around outside in my own little oblivious bubble. I’m not looking to meet a lover, or even meet new friends. I’ll smile and wave at people I see every day. If someone talks to me to ask a question I’m polite and courteous. But typically I’m in my own little world when I’m outside.  I could care less what people think of me. When I was in school? I’m sure students judged me. But, I could care less. I went to class, I did my work.  Most of the time I had student groups for the majority of my classes and the people I associated with genuinely thought I was a nice person or smart and thus spent time with me too via student groups or class partners. Maybe my world view would be different if I didn’t have my hubby? I doubt it. I was always the free spirited hippy chick who was all hearts and bubbles all the time that was kind to a fault. I never judged myself or others by their number. Maybe maturing into a adult alone and without a love would have tainted that. I like to think not. But either way, I matured with a love and with it I brought a confidence. But, that confidence was only empowered because underneath it all, I didn’t define myself by society’s standards.

This my appeal to all you ladies out there.  Don’t judge yourself like society judges you. I know it’s not easy. I had an advantage finding a man that loves me for me. But, even without that , it all would mean nothing if I didn’t open my heart to loving myself first.  Love yourself in your own skin.
You can change your appearance. You can change your weight. But your insides? They’re  with you no matter who comes and who goes in your life.

You need to be happy alone.

Cause we are born alone and we die alone.

But always, always, you have yourself.

Accept yourself.


Tags: , , , , , , ,

About Corner of Confessions

My writings will tell my tale

7 responses to “Acceptable Level of Fat”

  1. robertberardi says :

    Very inspiring ending! It’s true, it’s the inside that counts. But it’s great that you’re taking steps to get healthy, so when you’re my age/ older you won’t have so many health risks. I have sleep apnea and it’s no fun.

    • dietriotgirl says :

      Thank you for reading and commenting Bobby! I appreciate the praise. I figured too, considering my parents health, I’m in for a rocky golden years so might as well take some precautions now. Reminds me of a comedian i saw , don’t remember her name but she had a bit that i will butcher in trying to tell you now . She was being asked to give a reason why she was joining a gym and she said ” I exercise two hours a day in hopes of lessening the degree and severity of the stroke I will have in 10 years” I couldn’t help but laugh cause my motivation is something similar.

  2. westernqueensland says :

    It’s Insightful how/
    We understand creation/
    So subjectively/

  3. westernqueensland says :

    6b. It is instructive:/
    We understand creation/ 
    So subjectively/ 

  4. tfaswift says :

    Absolutely true and perfect. I agree, women are way too hard on themselves. If you *want* to lose weight, fine, go ahead and do it properly – healthy, moderation, not self-starvation etc. But if you’re fine with your weight, whatever it is, that’s great too. The most important thing is to be a kind person; I really believe that. Our society is soooo judgmental and soooo superficial. It annoys me and I write about it a lot. So nice to find people like you out there, happy and confident. No wonder your hubby loves you! Tell him from me that he’s a lucky man! 🙂

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s


~wandering through life in my time never know where it will stop next~


Documenting the #dating journey and seeing what is learned along the road. I don't think it matters who you date nor who you love, the issues, comparabilities and blissfulness seems to cross all lines. Dating is #dating. Love is #love. Compatibility Rules!


Come with me as I start over.. My way

This Thing Called Life One Word at a Time

"Never forget it is real people who live out such tales and bear the price of the telling, in grief and guilt and sorrow". -Jacqueline Carey

Written In The Dark

Renee Irwin: wannabe writer

Lorelai Losing It

I'm 19 and the only way I make sense of life is to write it down.

The Shameful Sheep

shit storms, shame, and stories that make you cringe

Edwina's Episodes

Blogger, Rhymester and Poet. Looking at life in all it's glory, and putting my own spin on it, with just a dash of humour thrown in!

Her Headache

A place to express myself through writing. a way to make sense of it all. Life as I see it.

All In A Dad's Work

A part time stay home dad enjoying (nearly) every minute of it...

Ask Jana Leigh

Let's have a little girl talk ;)

Mental Break - In Progress

Please hold while I direct your call...


Because you need more than my fingerprints

World of Horror

A cozy cottage for writers and book lovers

In Love With An Inmate

He told me it wasn't going to be easy; he was right.


My rambling thoughts about nothing special

Jeremy's Journey

Living with brain cancer

survivor road

a survivor of childhood sexual abuse

city winds

i'm no artist; i'm just messy.

life and love

my attempt at life and love, the ups and downs and the boring bits in between.

Bitch Fit

In our world, divide and conquer must become define and empower. - Audre Lorde

Poorly Thought Out Thoughts

You don't have to say everything that pops into your head, but you can blog about it.

Submissive Angel

Love, Heartbreak, Submission, Motherhood. These are the keys which make up my life.

The Write Perspective

One author's journey...

The Big Girl's Guide

To Love, Sex and Self Confidence

Do you work here? --- H.M.Peña

Much ado about retail.


By TV Fans. For TV Fans.

%d bloggers like this: